Baby Showers
When I was expecting my first baby a friend of mine threw me a baby shower. It was great… we ate chocolate ice cream out of diapers, measured my belly with toilet paper, and of course receive 101 gifts for expected baby. I can remember my mother asking me why on earth I would be having a baby shower and I was shocked. Well, she said, “because you never know what is going to happen”. I chalked it up to her being extremely negative and carried on my usual naive way.
My first baby came just fine. Fast forward to the twins. Well, it was too early to even think about a baby shower, but now I am questioning the celebration all together (well, more so the timing of it). I went to a baby shower on the weekend for a friend (the friend who found out she was expecting 4 weeks after me), I picked out a card and stared at it blankly. What exactly was I supposed to write?! “Congratulations on making it this far”? Or maybe, “Good luck”? After a while I ended up putting something like, “Happy Baby Shower Day” and “I can’t wait to meet your little one”.
I now understand why people don’t have baby showers before the baby comes. Who wants a whole house full of new baby stuff if they lose their baby? No one. Am I being negative? Hell no! I’m being realistic here. MOMS LOSE BABIES!!! It happens and I hate it, but it still happens. What about a Blessingway? I think that might be a better celebration to have before baby comes, focusing more so on the mom and the changes about to take place in her life. I found this blog where the author posts about her blessingway that she had after losing a baby.
So, from this day forward I vow to never throw a baby shower for someone who has not had their baby yet! I will however organize blessingways. That is, of course, if my little corner of the world ever catches up to the rest of the world and figures out what a blessingway is, LOL!
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