Death and Loss

My Grandma died on the 20th.
Believe it or not, I am a little shocked.  Yes, she was old, 88 to be exact, but she seemed so young just a couple months ago.  Turned out that she had cancer, all over.  So just over a week ago my mother, myself and the 2 littlest kiddos drove [...]

Limbo

Limbo:  an unknown intermediate place or condition between two extremes, in limbo
I think I’m at a point where I need to decide what to do.  I feel like I’m looking at a fork in the road and I’m just standing here looking, making no real decisions.  I feel like I’ve been here for a while, in a [...]

Damn you Aunt Flow

Dear Aunt Flow,
I can remember being a young girl and anxiously waiting your arrival.  I used to think you were a sign of femininity, a sign of maturity and womanhood.  I knew that if you came to visit that must mean I was growing up in to what I was destined to be (whatever that [...]

What makes a Mother?

I recently read a blog post  that analyzed the statement, “Your birth is the most important event in shaping your life as a mother”.  I read the post and honestly, had it been 4 months ago, I may have responded with, “woah!  you’re crazy!  Birth is EVERYTHING”.  You know what I mean… the whole, “peace [...]

Belly shots

Today was a really crappy day.  I don’t even feel like typing about it as I have finally stopped crying and do not want to start again.
I was looking on my phone and saw some pictures I had taken while expecting.  The first one is of our sweet daughter A, she’s wearing a shirt that [...]

I Don’t Get it

I just got off the phone with my cousin who has been trying to have a baby for years now.  She and her husband are the most caring, fantastic people I know and if anyone should have a baby, it’s them.  After years of trying they finally decided to try IVF (invitro fertilization).  Today she [...]

Deadbabyland

As I was scrolling blogs a while back I read, “After a loss, friends become strangers and strangers become friends”.  While I have not had any friends become strangers following my loss, in the past I had become a stranger to a friend who experienced loss before me.  I reached out to her and she retreated and isolated [...]

Twin-to-Twin Transfusion Syndrome

On my quest for answers I stumbled accross this site.  Actually, I wasn’t even really searching for it, I accidentally found it.  The Twin-to-Twin Transfusion Syndrome Foundation is a place for information, resources and support for those affected by TTTS.    From their site:
’snip’ What is TTTS?

Twin to Twin Transfusion Syndrome (TTTS) is a disease of the [...]

Stars in the Sand

We spent half of our holidays in a cottage that has been in the family for 50+ years.  It’s very close to Winnipeg Lake and I have very fond memories from my childhood there.  If you’ve been there than you know how big the lake is, if you have not been there I’ll tell you, [...]

The Grief I Can't Explain

I found this wonderful article this morning.  It goes over why grief is different for those of us experiencing a miscarriage and unless you’ve been there, it’s hard to understand.  People don’t know what to say and in an effort to be comforting, they usually say something that makes it worse.  For example, any statement [...]